‘Seeing Someone' or 'Dating Someone' or 'Having a Girlfriend or Boyfriend': What's the Difference?

By Amy Gilmore, updated on June 1, 2023

Do you want to know the difference between 'seeing someone' or 'dating someone' or 'having a girlfriend or boyfriend?' I can help!

In this guide, you will learn what each term means and how to use them. You will also understand how people use these phrases to describe relationships.

Before we get into it, are you looking for a quick answer? 

If so, here it is: 

  • 'Seeing someone' means that you may have gone on a few dates with someone or see them occasionally. 
  • 'Dating someone' means you casually go out with someone but are not in a committed relationship with them. 
  • 'Having a girlfriend or boyfriend' means you are with that person. 

There is a lot to learn about these terms. So, I hope you will stay until the end of this post.

What Do 'Seeing Someone' or 'Dating Someone' or 'Having a Girlfriend or Boyfriend' Mean?

Dating terms can be confusing, especially if you wonder where you stand with someone. So, knowing the difference between these terms can help you interpret where you stand with others and prevent miscommunications.

  • 'Seeing someone' means you occasionally hang out with someone with no strings attached.
  • 'Dating someone' means that you are going out with someone. You like each other but are not in an exclusive relationship.
  • 'Having a girlfriend or boyfriend' means you are in a relationship with someone.

Only the last phrase means you are in a relationship with someone. If you are 'seeing someone' or 'dating someone' you may or may not want them to be your boyfriend or girlfriend. Likewise, you may want to be in a relationship with someone, but if you are only dating, they may or may not see other people.

When to Use 'Seeing Someone' or 'Dating Someone' or 'Having a Girlfriend or Boyfriend'

It is pretty essential to know when to use each term. Using the wrong one could give someone the idea that you want to be with them when you are only interested in getting to know them.

  • Use 'seeing someone' if you casually see someone with no strings attached.

For example, you could say:

I am seeing someone, but it is casual. If you want to go out sometime, I would love to!

  • Use 'dating someone' if you are going out with someone and getting to know them.

For example, I might say:

John and I have been dating for six months. We have a good time together, but I don't know if I can see myself being his girlfriend.

  • Use 'having a girlfriend or boyfriend' if you are in a relationship with that person and want to be together.

For example, someone might tell you:

Having a girlfriend or boyfriend can make life more enjoyable, but it can also be a lot of work if it is not the right person. 

Definition of 'Seeing Someone': What Does 'Seeing Someone' Mean?

'Seeing someone is a phrase that, according to the Macmillan Dictionary, means:

  • Having a sexual or romantic relationship with someone

It can also mean:

  • Spending time with someone casually
  • The first step in getting to know someone

Similar Sayings to 'Seeing Someone'

  • Friends with benefits
  • Hooking up with someone

Definition of 'Dating Someone': What Does 'Dating Someone' Mean?

The same defines 'dating someone' as:

  • Having a romantic or sexual relationship with someone

It can also mean:

  • A relationship where you see each other regularly but aren't committed fully
  • Making someone seem old
  • Exposing the age of someone

Similar Sayings to 'Dating Someone'

  • Romancing someone
  • Charming someone
  • Going out with someone
  • Wooing someone
  • Courting someone

Definition of 'Having a Girlfriend or Boyfriend': What Does 'Having a Girlfriend or Boyfriend' Mean?

'Having a girlfriend or boyfriend' means:

It also means:

  • Both parties want to be with each other
  • Girlfriend is a term women use to refer to a female friend

Similar Sayings to 'Having a Girlfriend or Boyfriend'

  • Significant other
  • Fiancee
  • Lover
  • Sweetheart
  • Mistress
  • Beau
  • Sweet
  • Love
  • Honey
  • Darling
  • Old lady
  • Old man
  • Flame

Pronunciation: How to Pronounce 'Seeing Someone' or 'Dating Someone' or 'Having a Girlfriend or Boyfriend'

Pronunciation is important because when you know how to pronounce terms, you are more likely to use them. Other people are also better able to understand the message you are conveying.

So, here is a pronunciation guide:

  • Use this phonetic spelling to pronounce 'seeing someone':

sē-ing som-won

  • Use this phonetic spelling to pronounce 'dating someone':

dayt-ing som-won

  • Use this phonetic spelling to pronounce 'having a girlfriend or boyfriend':

hav-ing ay gerl-frend or boi-frend

Sample Sentences with 'Seeing Someone' or 'Dating Someone' or 'Having a Girlfriend or Boyfriend'

So, you should understand how to use and pronounce these terms, but look at the sentences below for examples.

Seeing Someone

  • I have been seeing someone for a few weeks, but I don't think it is going anywhere.
  • I am seeing someone, but it is not serious. We enjoy doing things occasionally.
  • Seeing someone occasionally for a casual fling can be fun but can also lead to heartbreak if you do not want the same thing.
  • I am seeing someone, but we just hook up sometimes.
  • He was seeing someone, and they seemed like two peas in a pod, but they stopped talking.

Dating Someone

  • Are you dating someone? If not, I would love to introduce you to my friend.
  • It might be time to move on if you have been dating someone for months and are not in a committed relationship.
  • Dating someone before committing to a relationship with them is a good idea. That way, you can get to know them without jumping in.
  • I was dating someone, but that ship has sailed. He got back together with his ex.

Having a Girlfriend or Boyfriend

  • Having a girlfriend or boyfriend can be a lot of work.
  • Being alone is better than having a girlfriend or boyfriend who makes you miserable.
  • Do you have a boyfriend? My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 1/2 years.
  • If you have a girlfriend, you should bring her to our couples' dinner.

Seeing Someone/Dating Someone/Having a Girlfriend or Boyfriend

  • I would like to start seeing someone. I haven't dated someone in a long time, but I would like to have a girlfriend.
  • I don't even remember what it's like to have a boyfriend. I was seeing someone for a while, but they started dating someone else.

The Last Word on 'Seeing Someone' or 'Dating Someone' or 'Having a Girlfriend or Boyfriend'

So, you should have a firm grasp on how to use 'seeing someone' or 'dating someone' or 'having a girlfriend or boyfriend,' but here is a quick recap: 

  • 'Seeing someone' means that you casually see someone romantically, sexually, or as friends with no commitment.
  • 'Dating someone' means you are seeing someone romantically or sexually and are likely interested in that person but may or may not be dating other people.  
  • 'Having a girlfriend or boyfriend' means that you are in a committed relationship with someone. 

If you need help with other terms or phrases that are commonly misused, take a look at the other guides in the confusing words section here. They are very informative and contain definitions, meanings, usage tips, and examples to help you learn how to use them grammatically.

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Written By:
Amy Gilmore
Amy Gilmore is one of the lead freelance writers for WritingTips.org. She has been a professional writer and editor for the past eight years. She developed a love of language arts and literature in school and decided to become a professional freelance writer after a demanding career in real estate. Amy is constantly learning to become a better writer and loves sharing tips with other writers who want to do the same.

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